I tell my girlfriend everything, but she never tells me anything that’s going on in her life. When we’re together, we would just have a good time and everything, but when we’re apart because we each go to boarding schools(but we get to see each other on every other weekends), I write to her every single day but she hardly ever replies even though she reads the messages(over e-mail), and when she decides to drop me a line, she’s almost always complaining about how much she hates her life, her family, and herself.
It’s not exactly the fact that she doesn’t write often, but it’s the fact that she won’t ever tell me what’s going on in her life is what’s bothering me.
I always give her space and know not to crowd her, but I feel like I am not a part of her life.
I’ve already told her that she can tell me anything that’s going on in her life.
We’ve been going out for about a year and I’d do anything for her and want a serious and committed relationship, but I don’t know how to get through to her.
Should I just drop everything and stop making things so serious?
Should I just see her on the weekends instead of writing everyday and calling her when I can and just have fun?
I really don’t know what to do.
I don’t even know what I’m really trying to ask.
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Well, when you say she’s saying how she hates her life, self, and family, that’s not good. She could be depressed and needs some help. Maybe you could try to sit down with her face to face and talk about these problems she is complaining about because her complaining could be a way she’s reaching out to you. Also, if she’s depressed, it could be why she doesn’t reply every time you write to her, too.
And don’t drop everything… just give her time. She has to learn to start loving herself, 1st, and you have to be mature and realize that….
With most girls, getting into a serious relationship can be hard. If she’s almost always complaining about her life, then maybe she doesn’t feel ready for a serious relationship – and that might be part of what’s getting her down.
On a completely different side of it, she could be upset because you’re not spending as much time with her as she likes, she might be complaining about her life because you only ever see eachother every other weekend, though you write – which is really sweet – she doesn’t feel up to writing back because she doesn’t think it’s enough.
The very best thing to do is to ring her, or email her about this. Maybe even email her this question. Just tell her you always miss her, and that she’s very important to you, this should get the message through.
hope i helped
She’s sending you a message. Time to move on.
um mm complicated but if this is something that’s started recently just give her some time , am sure she loves you and want you beside her, but the family matters may be taking over her right now and that could be da problem for this. and you seem to be doing the right thing by giving her space and time. …sometimes its not always easy to tell everything and explain every thing you go thru to a person cz sadness and upset could have built with time and some times with out real reasons for it to be there…having read that she’s complaining saying she hates her life could be cz shes hurt too much inside and she don’t know how to express those feelings, she cud be feeling lost.
reading that u guys hav a good time wen u see each other for me means she likes your presence and that cud b da Only time she’s happy, maybe shes also angry that ur away from her til da weekends….
Grow up, push on, get over it.
hiya, she isnt ready 4 a realtionship perhaps. And maybe wont be for a long time, so you could be wasting your time. Give her space for like a week, and hopefully she will email you and that will show you she cares.
If she isnt ready for a relationship though, comunnicating so much may be pushing her away and getting her more irritated even though its very sweet.
good luck
well i think that you sound like you really want this relationship to happen. so just keep it up. maybe she has had bad relationships in the past and this could cause her to have insecurity. personally i have experienced negative relationships and this has made the relationship i am now wobbly. i don’t tell my partner everything like you do. and i constantly ask who she is texting and stuff. but maybe she just needs to know that you are there for her. she may have some really bad days were she just don’t feel like taking life any more.. but i am sure deep down she does love you. it may be hard for her only seeing you every other weekend. maybe she would prefer to see you like every night or something. i know this probably cant happen but she needs to know you care.
yea maybe cut down on the writ ting letters( but dint stop completely or she may think you dint want her)
keep it up xx